Being nice equals being a loser... *really?*

O-o This particular entry has been spreading like wildfire, perhaps because some of us could associate with it. It does sound a trifle MCPish, so firsthand apologies to gals who dun really like the way the contents are portrayed.

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Ode to the Nice Guys
This rant was written for the WhartonUndergraduate Journal

This is a tribute to the nice guys.

The nice guys that finish last, that never become more than friends, that endure hours of whining and bitching about what assholes guys are, while disproving the very point.

This is dedicated to those guys who always provide a shoulder to lean on but restrain themselves to tentative hugs, those guys who hold open doors and give reassuring pats on the back and sit patiently outside the changing room at department stores.

This is in honor of the guys that obligingly reiterate how cute/beautiful/smart/funny/sexy their female friends are at the appropriate moment, because they know most girls need that litany of support.

This is in honor of the guys with open minds, with laid-back attitudes, with honest concern.

This is in honor of the guys who respect a girl's every facet, from her privacy to her theology to her clothing style.

This is for the guys who escort their drunk, bewildered female friends back from parties and never take advantage once they're at her door,

for the guys who accompany girls to bars as buffers against the rest of the creepy male population,

for the guys who know a girl is fishing for compliments but give them out anyway,

for the guys who always play by the rules in a game where the rules favor cheaters,

for the guys who are accredited as boyfriend material but somehow don't end up being boyfriends, for all the nice guys who are overlooked, underestimated, and unappreciated,

for all the nice guys who are manipulated, misled, and unjustly abandoned, this is for you.

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The nice guys don't often get credit where credit is due. And perhaps more disturbing, the nice guys don't seem to get laid as often as they should. And I wish I could logically explain this trend, but I can't.

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Fu-zu Jen, SEAS/WH, 2003

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The above isn't the complete article. I took off some of the parts with the not-so-nice phrases which I rather not appear on my blog.

It was the opinion of someone that its time to stop being nice and become a jerk. Can you put aside what you treasure and had been nice to for such a long time, turn your back on it / (or perhaps him/her), and be a jerk? Can you really?

My friend felt that even though this article is "supposed" to make nice guys sound really good, but at the end of it, he summarized it as "Thank you for being nice. We love having you around. But please do remember you're still a loser" To him, this is disturbing. On his comment board, another friend left a track saying that a guy is nice to a girl not because he chooses to, but because he can't help it. And he doesn't expects anything return, simply because of the fact that he's nice.

Joseph: I am pretty sure you will get to read this bro, but to me, the driving reason perhaps, is because you care and love the one you are nice to. You do not expect anything in return, because by doing what you feel you are supposed to do, and gaining satisfaction and especially, happiness out from it, is what you could call, your 'returns'. It is not simply because of the fact that 'he's nice by nature and can't help it but be nice', but rather more because 'he cares, and he loves'.

I've been hurt before, but this is my opinion, my stand, and I stand firm with it.